Saturday, November 18, 2017

HOW TO DEAL WITH GIRL DRAMA

Hey, Gabriel Girls!

 It hits you when you least expect it. When you think things are going great with your best friend, all of a sudden she turns on you. She says something mean about you in front of the girls you hang with, or she reveals a secret about you she promised never to share.

 All of a sudden, you explode with ugly words you thought you'd never say to anyone. Before you know it, your once best friend has become your worst enemy.

So, what's going on here? What is really happening in girl drama?  And what can you do when you find yourself right smack in the middle of it?

 1--Stay calm. One of the worst things you can do when involved in girl drama is to let your emotions take over. Heated emotions cloud logical thinking, and what you need more than anything when you're thrust into girl drama is logical thinking. Forcing yourself to stay calm will help you to stay logical. 

 2--Take stock of the situation. Once you've calmed yourself down, you can take a look at what's really going on. You can acknowledge that you're angry and hurt, but you can also give your anger and hurt to God. You can ask Him for wisdom as to what to do next. You can try to understand the reason your friend turned on you. You can honestly ask yourself if you had anything to do with it or not. Sometimes we unwittingly contribute to girl drama by something we say or do. But if you honestly didn't have anything to do with the drama, then simply ask God to heal your hurt and to show you what to do next.

 3--Meet in person with the friend who hurt you. This may sound like a really scary thing to do, but it is one of the best ways to restore a friendship. In a nice way, tell your friend that you were deeply hurt by her actions. Ask her the reason for her behavior and then listen carefully to her side of the story. You may learn some surprising things.

 4--Apologize if you contributed to the drama. If, in some way, you contributed to the drama, apologize and ask forgiveness. A humble spirit is one of the best ways to restore a broken relationship.

 5--Forgive the one who hurt you. If your friend was entirely at fault, tell her you forgive her. If you had some responsibility for the drama, ask her to forgive you. 

 6--Have the courage to walk away from the relationship if it continues to be toxic. Sometimes the best thing to do is to leave a relationship when it is harmful to you. Don't ever be afraid to do so. Any "friend" who continues to hurt you is not a friend at all. 

 7--Learn from the drama experience. Girl-drama experiences can teach us a lot about ourselves. Ask yourself what you learned from the experience. How can you avoid a similar experience in the future? How can you help someone else going through girl drama?

 8--Choose your friends wisely. Some girls are true friends; others are not. Choose only friends whose qualities you want to emulate. You will become like the friends you hang with.

 9--Finally, remember that Jesus will always be your friend. He promised never to leave you nor forsake you. And He will never, ever hurt you!

 I'd love to hear your thoughts on how you have handled girl drama. Please write your comments in the box below. Thanks!
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Saturday, September 16, 2017

ARE YOU DRIFTING AWAY FROM THE LORD?

Hey, Gabriel Girls!

 If you've been watching the news lately, you've seen the results of Hurricane Irma. As I viewed the very sad pictures on TV, I was struck by the way houses, cars, and personal belongings just drifted away, carried off by the rising waters. Those objects had lost all of their anchoring and could not resist the power of the water.

 The scene made me think of many Christians who have lost their anchor and are being carried away by the destructive waters of sin.

 Are you one of them?

 If so, listen up so you don't get carried away altogether until you are totally destroyed. I'm going to give you three tips for keeping the flood waters of sin from drowning you.

 1--Admit that you've turned from God and have followed the road of sin.

 2--Repent. Right now! Yes, stop reading and repent. This means making a 180-degree turn in the opposite direction from your sin.

 3--Run back to God. When we sin, we shouldn't run away from God but toward God. He loves us and is the only One Who can forgive us and restore us to fellowship with Him.

 As you take these three simple steps, you will be re-establishing your anchor in the only place it will hold you safely: in the arms of your Heavenly Father. As long as you remain there, you will never have to fear that the rising waters of life will overtake you. 

 Here's a Scripture verse for you to memorize:

 "Surging waters cannot quench love; floodwaters cannot overflow it. If someone were to offer all his possessions to buy love, the offer would be utterly despised." --Song of Solomon 8: 7
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