Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts

Saturday, November 18, 2017

HOW TO DEAL WITH GIRL DRAMA

Hey, Gabriel Girls!

 It hits you when you least expect it. When you think things are going great with your best friend, all of a sudden she turns on you. She says something mean about you in front of the girls you hang with, or she reveals a secret about you she promised never to share.

 All of a sudden, you explode with ugly words you thought you'd never say to anyone. Before you know it, your once best friend has become your worst enemy.

So, what's going on here? What is really happening in girl drama?  And what can you do when you find yourself right smack in the middle of it?

 1--Stay calm. One of the worst things you can do when involved in girl drama is to let your emotions take over. Heated emotions cloud logical thinking, and what you need more than anything when you're thrust into girl drama is logical thinking. Forcing yourself to stay calm will help you to stay logical. 

 2--Take stock of the situation. Once you've calmed yourself down, you can take a look at what's really going on. You can acknowledge that you're angry and hurt, but you can also give your anger and hurt to God. You can ask Him for wisdom as to what to do next. You can try to understand the reason your friend turned on you. You can honestly ask yourself if you had anything to do with it or not. Sometimes we unwittingly contribute to girl drama by something we say or do. But if you honestly didn't have anything to do with the drama, then simply ask God to heal your hurt and to show you what to do next.

 3--Meet in person with the friend who hurt you. This may sound like a really scary thing to do, but it is one of the best ways to restore a friendship. In a nice way, tell your friend that you were deeply hurt by her actions. Ask her the reason for her behavior and then listen carefully to her side of the story. You may learn some surprising things.

 4--Apologize if you contributed to the drama. If, in some way, you contributed to the drama, apologize and ask forgiveness. A humble spirit is one of the best ways to restore a broken relationship.

 5--Forgive the one who hurt you. If your friend was entirely at fault, tell her you forgive her. If you had some responsibility for the drama, ask her to forgive you. 

 6--Have the courage to walk away from the relationship if it continues to be toxic. Sometimes the best thing to do is to leave a relationship when it is harmful to you. Don't ever be afraid to do so. Any "friend" who continues to hurt you is not a friend at all. 

 7--Learn from the drama experience. Girl-drama experiences can teach us a lot about ourselves. Ask yourself what you learned from the experience. How can you avoid a similar experience in the future? How can you help someone else going through girl drama?

 8--Choose your friends wisely. Some girls are true friends; others are not. Choose only friends whose qualities you want to emulate. You will become like the friends you hang with.

 9--Finally, remember that Jesus will always be your friend. He promised never to leave you nor forsake you. And He will never, ever hurt you!

 I'd love to hear your thoughts on how you have handled girl drama. Please write your comments in the box below. Thanks!
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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Why Should I Forgive Someone Who Hurt Me?

We can’t go through life without getting hurt. Unfortunately, it’s part of the package of being on this earth. But we can learn how to deal with hurt so that it doesn’t mess up the rest of our lives.


The first thing to know about all hurt is that it comes from Satan. The foundation of dealing with hurt is the truth that God is good and Satan is bad. We have to get this foundational truth straight before we can be set free from hurt.

 Scripture says that "Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father . . . .” (James 1:17).   

 Once you’ve settled in your mind that God is good all the time, you can begin handling your hurts.  Here are three steps to help you:

 1) Identify the hurt.  Allow yourself for a moment to feel the pain caused by the hurt.

 2) Give the hurt to Jesus.  He wants you to cast all of your cares of Him (I Peter 1:7).

 3) Forgive the person who hurt you. The way to do this is to let Jesus in you forgive through you.

 Living the Christian life really means letting Jesus live that life through us. We cannot live the Christian life on our own. This is what the Apostle Paul meant when he said, “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live but Christ lives in me” (Galatians 2:20).

 Why should you forgive some one who hurt you?  Because forgiving the person who hurt you is the only way for you to be free.  When we do not forgive, we allow ourselves to be the prisoner of the person who hurt us. 

 So forgive. God will take care of the person who hurt you. But, best of all, pray that God will have mercy on that person and that he or she will come to Christ. This is what Jesus did as He hung on the Cross and said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34). 

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  • You need to have a desire to tell others about Jesus wherever you go and whenever you can.
  • You need to commit to following Jesus by reading the Bible and praying every day and by obeying Jesus' command to love Him and to love your neighbor.
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