Showing posts with label self-esteem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-esteem. Show all posts

Friday, May 21, 2021

Are You an Approval Addict? by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

Hey, Awesome Teens!

Do you know there's an attempt afoot to steal your worth? 

Indeed, there is! If you're wondering what I'm talking about, I'm talking about what the Bible calls the "fear of man." 

The fear of man is another term for approval addiction. When we suffer from approval addiction, we look to other people for our sense of worth instead of to God. We look to other people to affirm that we are somebody. 

This is a very dangerous thing to do!

Why?



Because no human being can give you your worth. Only God can do that. 

And no one can take your worth away from you!

The great news is that God has already given you your worth! He gave it to you the instant He created you. 

And He will never take it away from you.

Sad to say, however, many teens look to other people or other things for their sense of worth. 

Some girls look to guys to give them worth. Some guys look to girls to give them worth.  Some of both genders look to clothes, cars, money, sports, music, popularity, or grades to give them worth.

But the truth is that none of these things will give you worth.

If you're looking to people or things to give you worth, you're not alone. But you are in trouble!

So, why do teens sometimes look to other people or other things for approval? Here are a few reasons:

1. They don't know God created them. They were taught they evolved from a lower form of life and are here by chance. So---they reason---if I'm nothing more than an accident, what worth do I have?

2. They grew up in a home where they did not feel loved and accepted by their fathers. This lack of a father's love left them feeling rejected. 

3. They are insecure in who they are, mostly because they don't know who they are. For this reason, they crave the approval of others in order to feel secure.

In each of the above examples, we find a common denominator: A LIE!  

In the first example, the lie is that we are here by chance.

In the second example, the lie is that our worth depends on how our earthly fathers treated us.

In the third example, the lie is that security comes from other people or things.

The Bible teaches that all lies come from Satan and calls him "a liar and the father of lies" (John 8: 44). John 10: 10 says this: "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly."  The thief is Satan. His goal is to steal from you, to kill you, and to destroy your life.  But Jesus came to give you abundant life in every way.

Part of that abundant life Jesus wants to give you is approval. When you receive Him as your Savior and Lord, He accepts you into His family. He gives you His approval as His child. He gives you purpose and security.

So, don't allow Satan to steal your sense of worth. Don't believe his lies. Obey what the Bible says: "Submit to God; resist the devil, and he will flee from you" (James 4: 7). Look to God alone for your worth and get free from approval addiction once and for all! 

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Copyright 2019-2021 by MaryAnn Diorio, PhD, MFA.  All Rights Reserved.



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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

I Wish I Were . . . .




Hey, Gabriel Girls!

Do you ever wish you were someone else? Like the girl in your class who turns every guy's head? Or the girl who aces all her tests? Or the girl who has that hourglass figure and eats everything she wants and doesn't gain an ounce?

Ugh!

Do you think that maybe if you were prettier, or smarter, or thinner your life would be perfect? Or you would be loved more? Or even loved at all?

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Think again!

THINKING WITH GOD

In fact, let's think about this with God. That's what God wants us to do, you know.  He wants us to think about everything together with Him. 

This is how He puts it in the Bible: "'Come, let’s talk this over,' says the Lord." (Isaiah 1:18 TLB). 

Isn't it amazing that God wants to talk things over with us? So, let's do what God says and talk with Him about the issue of "I wish I were (fill in the blank)."


Okay. How? Here are four things I do whenever I need to talk something over with God--which, by the way, is every day.

First, I get quiet. Sometimes I put on soft praise music. Sometimes I just go sit outside under a tree. Sometimes I go to the beach (my favorite place in the whole wide world). Or sometimes, I just go to my room and close the door.

But, always, I take my Bible with me. And, always, I read a part of it. (If you don't own a Bible, let me know). 

Second, I start picturing Jesus. Sometimes I picture Him walking along the Sea of Galilee. Sometimes I picture Him sitting in the chair next to me. Sometimes I picture Him walking on the beach with me.

Next, I ask Him a question. I'm always sure to have a pen and my journal with me because Jesus always starts talking after I ask Him a question.


Finally, I write down what comes to my mind after I ask Him the question. Those thoughts that come to my mind after I ask Jesus a question are His words in response to my question.

"'Come, let's talk this over,' says the Lord."
(Isaiah 1:18)

How cool is that?

SOME QUESTIONS TO ASK GOD

So, what question do you want to ask Jesus today?  Write it down in your journal and then follow the four steps above. Trust that the thoughts that come to your mind after you ask Jesus your question are His words in response to your question.

Here are some sample questions to get you started:
  • Jesus, why did you give me brown hair instead of blond? (I'll ask Him why He gave me gray hair. SMILE!)
  • Jesus, why did You make me short? Tall? Blue-eyed? Hazel-eyed? Brown-eyed?
  • Jesus, why was I born in America? South Africa? India? (Or whatever country you were born in)?
  • Jesus, do You think I'm pretty?
  • Jesus, why did You make me?
  • Jesus, do You love me?

If you'd like to share your question and Jesus’ answer to you in the comment box below, please do so. When we share our hearts, we discover that the hearts of girls all over the world are very much the same.

With love in the Lion of Judah! (That's another name for Jesus. :))

Dr. MaryAnn   


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Copyright 2015 by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. All Rights Reserved.

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  • You need to be born again. This means that you have accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Savior and the Lord of your life.If you don't know how to do this, click here.
  • You need to have a desire to tell others about Jesus wherever you go and whenever you can.
  • You need to commit to following Jesus by reading the Bible and praying every day and by obeying Jesus' command to love Him and to love your neighbor.
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